Monday, March 8, 2010

Leave nothing unsaid

My thoughts today center around the important things in life. Faith, family and friends. There is nothing more important than remembering this in our day to day struggles. We, as a society are so caught up in the here and now and in some cases what I call "keeping up with the Jones'" that we forget what is the most important. God has a way of reminding us on a daily basis. He has a tendency to put things in perspective for us. I remember when my dad passed away. I had a restless night the night before worrying about bills, the kids etc, so I did not go to sleep until about one in the morning. It was about 2am when my cell phone rang with a wake-up call from one of HPD's finest. I work as a magistrate at the PD and have a good working relationship with my fellow police officers. This particular officer is one of my favorites and he was calling to let me know that he was on his way to my parent's house. Now, I am half asleep and thinking to myself, why is he going there? He said Kym, your dad had a heart attack and it does not look good. They are working on him and you might want to get there. I don't remember what I had on or even how I got to my parent's house. I do remember that my mom and I later joked that I had on house slippers and non-matching socks. At that point in my life, it did not matter how much money I had in the bank, how big my house was or how much I weighed. The only thing that mattered at this point was making sure my mom and dad were ok. Of course in the end my dad left us to be with God, but at least I was able to be there for my mom during her most difficult time. Life changed for me that night. I no longer sweat the small stuff like I once did and try to remember that " this too shall pass". The one thing in life that I became more concious of was making sure I left nothing unsaid. If I love you and you are important to me, I am going to let you know it. There are so many times in our lives when we look back and play the shoulda, coulda, woulda game. Please don't let your family and close friends be a shoulda, coulda, woulda in your life. Let them know how you feel about them each and every day. It is not just saying the words, it is living them. Small actions, a smile, a phone call a text. All these things become so important when you look back on life. The one thing I can say with my dad is that the last thing I told him before he died was that I loved him....How many people wish they had that chance again...................So, leave nothing unsaid.

"If we discovered that we only had five minutes left to say all that we wanted to say, every telephone would be occupied by people calling other people to stammer that they loved them".
-Christopher Morley

1 comment:

  1. So incredibly true. Like you, I learned this lesson the hard way. I have several friends (5) to die when I was between the ages of 17 and 22. It affected me so much, the way I parent, the way I live my life, the way I love. Which is why I always say, "I love you" and I mean it.
    And I appreciate you Kym, bc you DO ALWAYS let me know what I mean to you. You make me feel so loved and so special. Your friendship I treasure. And my life is better for having you in it.
    Always say what you feel.